"Who are you talking to??"
Sound familiar? Abuse is about control. Controlling who you talk with, what you talk about, and when you talk. If you find yourself feeling tense when your phone rings- over thinking about what your spouse might think, do or say- you may be in a toxic relationship.
Key strategies for phone use
Keep connected
Phone companies
Phone companies
No matter what they say, do not isolate. Early on, do not allow them to be fully in charge of who and when you talk with people. Gently but firmly state your need to take the call when the phone rings. You may need to alert loved ones of the controlling nature of your spouse and have dedicated time when they are not around in order to t
No matter what they say, do not isolate. Early on, do not allow them to be fully in charge of who and when you talk with people. Gently but firmly state your need to take the call when the phone rings. You may need to alert loved ones of the controlling nature of your spouse and have dedicated time when they are not around in order to talk more openly about things. Either way, you must continue to connect with a support system.
Phone companies
Phone companies
Phone companies
Who is the account holder on your cell phone? More than likely, it’s the person who tends to have abusive or control issues. Unfortunately, cell phone companies only list one person as the account owner, making it hard to do anything without their permission. If they are not granting you permission or if they are not allowing you appropr
Who is the account holder on your cell phone? More than likely, it’s the person who tends to have abusive or control issues. Unfortunately, cell phone companies only list one person as the account owner, making it hard to do anything without their permission. If they are not granting you permission or if they are not allowing you appropriate phone controls, consider ways to have your phone/phone number on a separate account.
Back up your phone
Change your Passcode
Change your Passcode
Ensure you back up your phone on an icloud account that is only accessible to you. If (and many times when) people with abusive behavior feel you are trying to break free from their grasp, they often go after your ability to communicate or use information from your phone.
Change your Passcode
Change your Passcode
Change your Passcode
Even if you think they don't now your phone passcode, change it anyway. Change the settings to ensure partial face ID will not work (in case they try to open up your phone while you are sleeping by holding it up to your face). Have extra authentication on all account apps on your phone. Even still, limit the ease of access on your phone to information.